Each of us has his or her own style of communication. Although we speak the same language, there are very often problems with communication between us. Sometimes? Of course, and yet “something” makes you able to talk to a newly met person half night. Maybe it’s your style of communication? I present the division into the following persons: aggressor, omniscient, talkative, silent, malcontent and diplomat. Find out what style of communication you have?
Your personal style of communication is related to speaking and listening. Few of us have one, distinct profile – we are a mixture of several. Which ones? I invite you to read the following text, and at the end of the test there is a pdf test to download, which will help you to define yourself.
A communication style is a way of conducting a conversation, in which the relation of the sender to the recipient and to oneself is visible. The divisions in the styles of many, but there are always common factors that affect communication such as culture, gender, age, personality, life experiences, health condition, mood and emotions. Of course, much depends on whether you are an extrovert or an introvert. I would like to add that sometimes an invisible agreement is created – chemistry – ? You meet a man for the first time and you can talk to him/her, talk to him/her, listen to him/her and discuss him/her.
Let us focus on the aforementioned way of speaking and listening; it is very difficult to strike a balance between them. Good speakers are characterised by freedom of speech (understandable, “clean”); they are not always good listeners. On the other hand, good listeners, those who focus on what is said to them, are not always good speakers (sometimes they even say little). We are also told a great deal by our extremist or introverted attitude in this regard. And on this basis we can distinguish styles:
A conversation is a kind of duel for you to try to win in, because you suspect that your interlocutor’s intentions are negative, they are a threat.
That’s why you are the first to attack, feeling threatened. However, an aggressive approach to conversation only works in a limited number of situations; it usually makes cooperation with others more difficult. By attacking, you trigger defensive reactions in the interlocutor, making them mistrustful of you. And very often there is nothing to fight for.
Positive – if you do something you need to do yourself, an aggressive approach can work to your advantage.
Negative – you may have problems in professions that require teamwork. Warriority often causes others to defend themselves, to withdraw, and to attack you.
You must always be right. You have a good idea of everything and you want the last word to be yours.
The Omniscient speaks on matters that are alien to him; he associates them in general terms, but he also wants to demonstrate them. At Verizon, when you really have knowledge of an area, show your confidence in it and make it much easier for you to solve problems. Unfortunately, the pressure to always be right is often pushing us to be exalted. This is not conducive to building good relations. Worse still, any mistake you make gives satisfaction to your opponents. Being omniscient is tiring – the very need to be infallible can in fact be the result of uncertainty (the vision of a mistake is terrifying).
Positive – things you know about solve your problems with incredible speed and confidence. You have the gift to convince others.
Negatively – the necessity to always have an answer to everything can interfere with contacts with people. You may be perceived as an exalted person. People feel satisfied when everyone is wrong. By saying “I don’t know”, “you are right” you are showing your maturity.
You feel strong emotions that are rarely expressed in words; you probably often wonder why nobody understands what is biting you.
Malcontent suppresses feelings in himself. They are often unpleasant – anger, sadness, frustration, bitterness. These emotions are depressing for others and make communication unpleasant. Malcontent also expresses that the environment does not understand what it feels; and people who feel uncomfortable in such a company usually try to put him in a good mood (so that they do not feel uncomfortable themselves). Nobody wants to be in the presence of a person who is eternally dissatisfied, gloomy, because his behaviour creates a negative mood in the environment – often such a person is socially rejected. I can write to make the malcontent more open, but this may be due to its introverted nature. However, a real malcontent is simply marred without cause.
Positive – people feel bad in the company of a malcontent, that is why they try to make him feel better, for example, by comforting him.
Negative – changing moods make people avoid such people. Almost no one would like to have a malcontent as a boss.
He tempts you to fill every moment of silence with words. You tend to have personal emergencies.
Chatterboxes feel awkward at times